I'm a fan of Tiffany Haddish and it comes as no shock that herpes jokes are alive and well.
Nothing is really off limits for comedians. There are jokes about gender, race, politics - anything that people tend to have strong feelings about. Why would herpes be any different? I think the distinction between the hurt that heeps experience after a joke (compared to any other group) is that we feel voiceless - we feel "less than" and we can't even express our concerns because then people will know.
Tiffany Haddish made a herpes joke at the VMAs, and that IS okay - it gets us talking. What isn't okay is how disempowered we feel. If we don't want herpes to remain this one-dimensional joke, we have to add dimensions to it - this is how we take our power back. Maybe if we share more of our stories, comedians will have more material to pull from and they can update this old go-to.
I'm still a fan of Tiffany Haddish - I think she's hilarious and brilliant, and she's creating the life she's always wanted after years of hard-work. If she can be out there living her best life after all the adversity she's been met with, then why can't we?